What is your love language?

Love languages, blogging, relationship

Well, this week I was finding bit difficult to choose the topic for writing the blog post. Finally I came up with an idea to write about LOVE,something which everyone is looking for in this world.

What is love ????

LOVE has always been the most difficult word to describe but yes, the best feeling which immediately changes your inner and outer environment. Nothing seems good without it. A world without love means an ocean without water. Not only human beings but all the the living creatures are  looking for it badly.

Do we express our love in a right way???

We have different ways to show are love for othets. Does the feeling you want to show are being correctly understood by othet person ? I doubt.

Sometimes, in our life a situation comes when we do our best to make our loved ones happy but the result comes out as a zero. Our attempt to make other person feel wanted and loved failed.We feel depressed and sad.

Why do we fail to understand the love expressed by others?

The answer to this question lies in the following examples.

● A wife cooks a special dish for the husband  on their anniversary. He tastes it and praises her but the wife is not happy??? Poor husband is not able to understand ! He has appreciated her efforts but she is reacting like this ???The reason being here that she was expecting a gift , may be a smaller one, on that particular day as her way to show love.(Gifts- a language of love for her)

Take one more example,

● Today is Janith’s mom’s birthday. She brings a beautiful bouquet and a dress of her choice to give her as a surprise. The mother is not happy????

The reason , she was not looking for the gift rather she wanted to spent some hours with her. ( A quality time – a language of love for her)

In both the cases, the language of love was different. The language of love for Janith was giving and receiving gift while for the mother was a quality time. Both were not able to understand the language of each other,both were not happy despite being putting efforts.

Same is the case in all the relationships. Most of the times we fail to understand the language of our partner, a friend, our children in our busy life. There is always a possibility that you language of love is different from the other person. You are expressing your love by giving gifts but the other person is expecting may be some quality time or some words of affirmations.

 Why should we know about different languages of love ???

You can make the other person feel eanted only if you know different languages of love .

Languages of love , blo,

According to Gary Chapman, there are five languages of love.

1. Words of appreciation or affirmation

2. Giving or receiving gifts

3.  Acts of service i.e. taking care

4. Quality time

5. Physical touch such as hugs 

Every person has his own language of love. You have to understand the language of other person to make him feel loved. It is like speaking the same language for each other. For this you have to discover his language by putting your language aside.

Sometimes, you may have felt that your wife is never been happy inspite the fact that you are going to market , bringing the groceries or getting the kids ready for the school ,Yet she complains you that you do not love her .It is because you feel loved when other person does this for you.

Your language of love is showing care for other. Not neccesarily ,it is a her language of love also. May be she feel loved when you spent some quality time with her or a small hug from you or a small flower or chocolate.

What is your language of love , journey of life continues

Discover the love languages of your loved ones.

We need to discover the language of each other. It is not only for married people but with kids too. If you are coming from a foreign tour and have brought  many gifts. You expect you child to be happy but she or he is not. May be he or she was expecting a tight hug ,not the gifts. Understand what the other person expect from you.

How can we make the other person feel loved??

By speaking their language of love .

In a nutshell, what is important to find the language of your loved loves so that you reciprocate the love in same manner and make the other person feel loved by putting your efforts in a right direction.

I am really thankful to  Gary Chapman    who has written such a wonderful book ( 5 languages of Love) that has helped me a lot to understand this concept of love and created a such a positive impact in my life.

Now you can answer to this question if somebody tell you – dear, you do not love me ?

Tell that– I love you but my way if expressing love is different from you. Please understand .

If the person feels difficult to understand – Show this article and tell him or her to read??

Feel free to share on WhatsApp or facebook or any other social media to make the world understand the languages of love.


This Post Has 40 Comments

  1. pythoroshan

    This is such a wonderful post. Not just sharing but saving too. I didn’t know about this concept of Gary Chapman and the five languages of love. Makes a lot of sense though.

    1. msarora

      I read this book about an year ago and found really helpful and interesting. You can read its preview on Google if you are interested.
      Thanks for reading and appreciating. ?

  2. Mann

    This is a beautiful reminder actually, especially for men…. Mostly they fail to understand the language of love. Reason is obvious I think ladies speak all laguages depending upon mood and time.
    For Example, I like gifts, but I like quality time also, then I want to be taken care of too, and badly need hugs… Tough nut to crack!!! ??? Basically, I am a multiligual female.

    1. msarora

      Thats means it is difficult to predict your love language ??

  3. Surbhi Prapanna

    This is a lovely read and I just loved the concept you had shared. indeed, it is very essential that we all learn the language of love and express it, thanks for sharing. #Superbloggerchallenge2018

    1. msarora

      We speak all these languages but we have to speak language at right time with right person.

  4. Surbhi Prapanna

    Plese read my week 7 post herehttps://surbhiprapannablogs.blogspot.com/2018/03/week-7-superbloggerchallenge2018-with.html

    1. msarora

      Pls send the link again.

  5. richa mina

    love is expressed in ways which are way beyond our intellectual self, but Gary Chapman has done a good job covering the language of love. #superbloggerchallenge2018.

    1. msarora

      Agree, atleast we should know these 5 languages. Most of time these work well, in my opinion.

  6. verilesr

    Such an amazing and interesting post! Thanks for sharing!

  7. Paolo B.

    Great overview of the love languages. I gave the book to my partner and she loved it. Good stuff for sure! Thanks!

    1. msarora

      Thanks Paolo for the follow on various social medias. Do share her views after she read the views.
      Happy to be connected with you ?

  8. Alubhujiablog

    That’s a lovely post about love . How wonderful would it be if everyone understands languages of love

  9. Ramya

    Loved reading your post ☺ will share now.

  10. jaya1966

    I loved the statement you made at the beginning “love changes the inner and outer environment.” Love makes us feel good from inside and it makes us glow and this spreads warmth all around. And yes you are right. Sometimes when we try to express love people are unable to understand it and this leads to problems. Great article.

    1. msarora

      Thanks Jai , I am glad you liked my post. Your comments always motivate me.?

  11. vartikasdiary

    Great post. Lovely concept indeed. It’s really important to express your feelings….means can be any 🙂 #Superbloggerchallenge2018 #instacuppa

    1. msarora

      Excatly,you are right !!!??

  12. This is exactly the same thing that I want my husband to understand. My language of love but I am trying so hard since last 6 years. This was a fabulous read.

  13. Lakshmi Kannan

    I also believe i may be a multilingual person too.
    I always knew about this stuff but did not know this existed as a formal concept. I am going to read this book too. Thanks for sharing.

  14. ghazala786

    Lovely post , Will keep in mind these points , will be useful 🙂

  15. Yeah Lifestyle

    I guess love means differently to different people. I am glad you have listed out the different ways in which we can show love from body language, words, actions as well as spending time. Each individual is so different from the other.

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    Even the things you don’t like about yourself make you interesting.
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  18. Swiddle D'Cunha

    I have read this book by Gary Chapman.Wonderful gist given in your post.

  19. Poonam

    Those 5 points have the power to create magic in relationship. This book was on my TBR list but I think I can skip it because you have briefed it well.

  20. upasna1987

    It happens a lot in relationships. Lively read.

  21. shail

    Love is such a beautiful sentiment and everyone has different ways of expressing it. Most of the time instead of understanding the language of live the receiver is expecting we tend to show love in a way we think is appropriate. Hence there is a difference in language of love. But if we keep in mind and understand each other’s language it would such a beautiful world.

  22. Srishti Rajeev

    The five ways of expressing love is very important.This is my take away, Also each person has his or her way of expression love.

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